revisiting our ins & outs

mid-year vibe check on stuff we hate and stuff we love for the rest of 2025

Jul 03, 2025

The everygirlz are BACK with a special edition to break up the year! Real ones know we kicked off in January with an ins/outs list (read it here for context) and this week it’s time for a vibe check.

When we were originally scheming about what this Substack could be, one thing we knew for CERTAIN was that it would be a space where we could be haters. To reiterate: While we don’t endorse hating for the sake of hating, or unprovoked bullying and slander, what we do stand by is this: You can’t trust someone who isn’t willing to publicly tell you what they DON’T like, to honestly tell you what they do. Thus the section “Things We Hate” was born.

Today’s post, in keeping with tradition, is an extension of that energy. If you feel so inclined to share an opinion of your own as you read, we would love nothing more than a comment section flooded with your ins and outs for the rest of this cursed year (and a friendly reminder to all of us that free will exists and the thoughts and feelings of the everygirlz in no way dictate the direction in which you take your life after reading this post).

With that said, cheers (?!) to being halfway through 2025!

Let’s get into it.

IN

girls who grill & weird tan lines
cold plunging in the lake & singing in the car
peonies & and afternoon ice cream cones
couch friends and lounging
hyper-specific niche perfumes & mismatched nail polish
wearing a swimsuit as a part of your outfit
whimsy (not curated)
party ponytails & day trips
affogatos & halter tops
having a curated collection of cards for any occasion waiting to be sent off at a moment's notice
maladaptive daydreaming & platonic love being a priority
crisp white wine and spritzes even though they’re overdone because sometimes being basic is fun
leaving the house with wet hair (carefree, just took a dip in the ocean energy)
prank calling & niche themed nights out for no particular reason
romanticizing budgeting & Lorde’s entire discography
KATSEYE as a concept not necessarily their music but just them
mascara and lip combo as your only makeup
sunrise walks & biking to dinner
overspending at specialty grocery stores
Zohran Mamdani
investing in products to stop neglecting your curly hair routine
solo trips & rejection therapy
getting dinner drunk & dance parties (solo and communal)
live music, Substack (DUH!), and kissing girls
HAIM
rejecting the concept of a “going out outfit” (wear whatever you want to the bar)
KEEN shoes & using journal prompts
looking a little silly but learning about yourself in the process
making it a point to be a regular somewhere in your neighborhood

OUT

buying literally anything on TikTok shop
villainizing the party girl aesthetic OR over-romanticizing a wellness routine (two sides of the same coin)
ChatGPT & billionaires
overthinking texts & selling public lands
Labubus (sorry)
being apolitical
hangover rotting & hot workout classes (until it gets cold again)
trad wives & 90s-era beauty standards
always seeing inconvenience as a bad thing
crop tops & protein obsession
“big beautiful bills” and robbing people of their healthcare
Venmo requesting your friends for anything less than like $5
contributing to anti-birth control sentiments
Love Island (only for now… this season is flopping)
also Love Island being a reflection of of the state of dating
color analysis… it’s not that deep
also saying “it’s not that deep” lowkey
forgetting to call your mom
little piles of stuff in your apartment & paying for laundry